Is being homosexual more about wanting to BE the opposite sex, rather than being sexually attracted to the same sex?

I mean, I know there are some legitimate cases out there where men are attracted to men and women attracted to women, so I do not want to stereotype or generalise... but why do so many gay men want to dress as women, and so many lesbians make themselves look like men? And what kind of people are actually attracted to this?

For the record, I am not homophobic, and I am totally accepting of same sex relationships, I am just baffled as to the real definition of homosexuality - and whether that label has been afforded to something a little different to the true meaning of homosexuality?

It could be argued that not all gay men dress in drag, and sometimes (rarely) straight men and women also don the over-emphasised attributes of drag, but I am not simply talking about drag queens.

I experienced firsthand, the dual personality of a gay man. To some acquaintances, gay men will appear perfectly natural and be totally unidentifiable as gay, but then with those they are comfortable with, out comes the pansie, girlie voice. What is with that?

If you are a man seeking to attract another man who likes men, then why start acting like a woman?

And have you noticed that many men who like men, are actually VERY feminine?

On the other side of the fence, you have lesbian women who can barely be recognised as WOMEN!

What is it that attracts a woman to another woman? I would have thought such things as soft skin, soft lips, gentle nature, soft hair and the sweet scent of perfume would be right up there, but apparently I am wrong.

These days they have shaved heads, oily skin, piercings and tattoos everywhere, and wear men's clothing.

I can vouch for the awkwardness of a drunken night letting the guard down, when you bump into one of these "ladies" in the female toilet and confusingly ask if you are in the wrong bathroom! Not a pretty sight!

So where have all the beautiful lipstick lesbians gone, and why do we have these man-wannabes instead?

Has homosexuality transformed so much from same-sex relationships, that now women no longer want to be with beautiful women, but rather with something more "in between"?

Again, I am in total support for homosexuality, I have no problem whatsoever with gay people, but is it any wonder a large proportion of the world's population believe that homosexuals have some sort of imbalance in the brain?

The problem is not that people cannot understand men wanting men or women wanting women, the problem is the men wanting men dressed as women, and the women wanting women who resemble men!